Mom, You’ve Changed! How to Transform From Care-taking to Caring

Mom, you’re not the same anymore. You have changed.

Yes. Yes, I have changed.

I’ve changed my mind.

I’ve changed my outlook.

I’ve changed and have done self reflecting.

I’ve grown as a woman, a mother and a friend.

Every day I try to become more educated and become a better person than I was yesterday.

I’ve changed because I realize that giving you money is not going to fix anything.

I’ve changed because I realize that fixing your car will not fix you.

I’ve changed as I realized that putting myself first is not only what I need to do, I HAVE to do.

I’ve changed as I refuse to allow this disease to control my actions, as it breaks my heart to see what it has done to you.

I’ve changed as not having my entire world revolve around addiction is better for my health.

My love for you has NOT changed.

Everything I did before was out of love. I’m just loving you in a different way now.

I am going to love and honor you for the woman that you are inside and I know in my heart is still there.

I miss you so much my heart literally hurts.

I’ve changed, yes. And with these changes, I’ve become a stronger person, in all areas of my life.

With that strength, I am able to love and care FOR you, instead of taking care of every issue.

I am able to listen quietly when you call without the need to jump in and be fix it mom.

I am able to respect you and give you the dignity that you deserve, instead of me lecturing of what you “should” do.

I have changed baby girl…and I am OK with that.

Katie Donovan is a family, life and relationship coach, speaker and writer, with a passion for empowering women. She has been interviewed on ABC, NBC, Fox Sports and featured in Time and Money Magazine cover stories. Katie’s award winning blog, www.amothersaddictionjourney.com,  reached over a million views and seen in 146 countries within 30 days of its inception and has been syndicated in over 30 publications, including USA Today and Babble by Disney.