Family Recovery Coaching, You are NOT alone!

Are you struggling on how to cope with your loved ones addiction? Has your family dynamic been affected? Unsure of what to do next, while you’re loved one is in treatment? What steps do you take if they are currently in active addiction?

So much of our focus has been on saving our loved ones who struggle…now it’s time to save YOU. When YOU become stronger and empower yourself with knowledge, your loved one has a much greater chance at recovery.

I am now accepting clients for private sessions, which can be done virtually, from the comfort of your own home.

Please know, you are NOT alone.

katie@amothersaddictionjourney.com

2017-03-24T17:27:33+00:00

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26 Comments

  1. Angelina Maldonado January 14, 2017 at 9:20 am - Reply

    I need some serious support. My son is not in denial with this addiction. He is not confident rehab will help. He was admitted 30 days and discharged himself. I am overwhelmed with my job that I don’t have time to attend a support group. I went to three Al-non sessions and it didn’t do any thing for me. I also took advantage of counseling offered thru EAP. It helped me understand the nature of it but also how it takes over the brain and what to expect as far as behavior. I need some serious advice on how to not worry….. For now I pray everyday that God just lay his hand on him and wake him up…..Please let me know what it is I can do to help!

    • Kimberly Payne January 23, 2017 at 5:00 pm - Reply

      My son is still in partial rehab. They call it IOP . it is the next step after inpatient rehab. It is intensive outpatient program from home. He decided not to try the sober living facility as we have heard horror stories about the ones near us. So he is doing IOP from home. This amounts to him going Mon-Thur 5-9pm plus he has counselling sessions with therapist & counselor and must attend 3 meetings & meetings on days he goes to IOP do not count toward his 3. I can honestly say I worry every second of every day. My son is facing possible jail time as he was caught in wrong place @wrong time. We have a very good atty but nothing is every guaranteed. To think of my son in jail is terrifying. To think of my son on a cold cement block dead haunts me!! I think it’s my job just to love him. My husband & I are trying to be supportive anyway we can but never know what will really help. I would be happy to listen if you need an ear. Caring friend

  2. Stephanie January 14, 2017 at 9:21 am - Reply

    Hey Katie
    I would love to start some type of programs here in Daytona/ Port Orange Fl. Stephanie

  3. Lorie January 14, 2017 at 9:31 am - Reply

    Katie, I think I emailed you back in oct , thank you for this email, but my daughter is now out of hospital came home for 5 days, and is off doing her addiction again, with my unborn grandson of 6 months, at this point I think I’m going to try to commit her for her and the baby’s life ! ūüėě Bless you and thank you !

  4. Tammie January 14, 2017 at 10:47 am - Reply

    I would love to be a part of this discussion .

  5. Donna Johnson January 14, 2017 at 3:24 pm - Reply

    Hi Katie:
    I was wondering what you charge for a recovery coach session or package?

  6. Sherri January 14, 2017 at 4:17 pm - Reply

    I have a son struggling with opiates

  7. Tonya Cornelius January 14, 2017 at 6:00 pm - Reply

    Hi not really sure how you got my name. But I’m struggling with the effects of lossing my mother to her addiction. She passed away on December 7th 2016! On my sons 14th birthday. I also loss my dadb11 yrs ago from a over dose as well. So you can imagine my feelings not really sure if anyone can help me.

  8. Sheryl January 14, 2017 at 6:57 pm - Reply

    I am having trouble taking my life from back, I could use some support. My husband and I would like to enjoy our lives they way we did eight years ago. So much of our life has been focused on our addict daughter and not on ourselves. How do I set this up with you?

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:28 pm - Reply

      I will email you shortly! ‚̧

  9. Toni January 14, 2017 at 7:23 pm - Reply

    My daughter has been addicted for 10 years to anything she can put in her mouth or veins.
    She has two children ages 6 & 4 who she hasn’t seen in a year and a half.
    I don’t even know where she is right now.
    I have legal guardianship of the children and have had the youngest one since birth.

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:28 pm - Reply

      I am so sorry. I know the pain..
      Constantly worrying. I am praying for you.

  10. Egan January 14, 2017 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    My daughter has been clean for 6 months. Well, except for occasional marajuana. Which is better than the xanax she was hooked on among other things. We used to have the best relationship. It was shattered when the bad friends and drug use started. She is in therapy after rehab and we are working on our relationship. I would love someone who could talk to me and give me guidance who knows what I am going through. I have looked into therapists and just havent felt anyone knew what I was going through. Let me know price and availability. Thank you so much!!

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:26 pm - Reply

      I will email you now!

  11. Kathy January 14, 2017 at 10:13 pm - Reply

    My son has been sober with Suboxone, following treatment 18 months ago. The doctor is weaning him off and he cannot convince the dr. that he is NOT ready. Too many terrible things have happened since he got sober, mostly several deaths of good friends, due to heroin overdoses. Fortunately, my son never got into heroin, but was heavily addicted to OxyContin for 10 years! I have no idea how to advise him. He’s 28, has lost everything he’s ever owned and though he goes to NA meetings, he is not the same. Depressed, full of fear and doesn’t tell anyone in NA about the subs. They do frown on this medication as treatment. Any advice?

    • Brian January 22, 2017 at 4:04 pm - Reply

      Hi Kathy,

      I am in recovery and on buprenorphine maintenance + mood stabilizing medication.

      My suggestions are:
      *If your son’s doctor wants to wean him off and he does not yet feel ready, he should find a different doctor who will allow him to stay on it. Staying on bup long-term is not nearly as bad as the marginal increased risk of relapse from not being on bup vs being on it.

      *As far as NA goes, I think that NA is absolutely wrong about its approach with respect to bup. NA is okay with its members smoking an incredibly dangerous number of cigarettes, but somehow is not okay with a time released partial opioid agonist that is taken once and at the same time daily that’s use does not mimic that of an active drug user. Your son should seek out other groups that are more accepting of bup and should develop the skills to advocate for his bup usage to those against it. A friend of mine used to tell me that bup use wasn’t real sobriety and encouraged me to get off of it. He died 2 months ago from a heroin overdose, and had he been on bup may still be alive. The recovery community’s attitude towards bup needs to change. I think it should be the standard of care that any patient attending inpatient treatment for opioids (or opioids among other drug addiction/mental health issues) should either be put on buprenorphine maintenance or given the Vivitrol shot before they are discharged (and required by law to get additional monthly shots). I worry that the recovery industry depends upon relapses for repeat business and would oppose legislation advocating for post inpatient treatment bup and vivitrol.

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:19 pm - Reply

      This is Brittany. My advice is to let him wean off. He’s going to feel bad..some body aches, body temperature off a little bit, yawning often..but 18 months of being on it is excessive. I think suboxone is great short term but it is another crutch. He’s nervous because he knows reality without that crutch is coming quickly. But with NA or any 12 step fellowship he will be okay.

  12. Mary Ellen January 15, 2017 at 11:48 am - Reply

    My 35 yr son is an alcoholic and uses drugs from his medical dr. Trying to get him into treatment again for the 5th time. Does he need dual diagnosis ? I think he had mental issues as well. Fondly, Mary Ellen

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:14 pm - Reply

      He may need dual diagnosis but that is something the treatment center can decide when he arrives. Please email me if you need more info.

  13. Kimberly Payne January 16, 2017 at 1:09 pm - Reply

    My son is fresh out of rehab…heroin…as a pharmacist this is my WORST nightmare realized…I’m so thankful he is still alive as I know stats on this beast. I honestly don’t know how to help him. I have tried bargaining and negotiating but nothing really works. This is his 2nd stint w/rehab. This time our insurance kicked him out after only 18 days of rehab…so now he is doing intensive outpatient program while living @home. We decided to let him make the decision not 2 go 2 sober living because of the pitfalls in that. Plus, he is facing a Felony B because he was caught in company of known drug dealers, etc. Our attorney is very good but I’m so afraid any little slip up on his part will land him in deeper legal trouble. Someone said to me that all I could really do was love him. Of course that goes without saying. I love him. My husband and I will always be there to have his back and to provide whatever help he needs. But what if he goes to jail??????? Or worse, expires from this beast????? My days are full of anxiety and worry. Thank u for listening!

    • Katie February 1, 2017 at 12:16 pm - Reply

      This is Brittany and this is my honest opinion.. if he relapses again after you letting him back into your home to complete iop and not go to jail, then kick him out. Do not let him take advantage of you. I did that to my parents for so long and it almost killed me. Had my mom just loved me from afar and not enabled me for so long, maybe I would have gotten clean sooner. Either way, he knows you love him and that’s extremely important for an addict. If you need anything at all feel free to email me. ‚̧ prayers.

      • Debi March 1, 2017 at 7:31 pm - Reply

        Thank you Brittany for being so honest. I pray for you and am so thankful to read about your recovery. You provide hope to us who have a child who is in the midst of addiction.

      • Alejandra Rivera March 16, 2017 at 10:24 am - Reply

        Hi Brittany,

        I’m a mom of a 34 year old drug addict daughter. Never imagine the nightmare we are now living. Reading your advise was an answer for my prayers, because I did realized how much I was enabling my daughter and now she is living in a shelter, lost everything she had and still haven’t decided to go to rehab. She even try to kill herself and said was because we don’t let her live in our house. I know we are taking a big risk because she really can died but what else can we do? Just continue praying. You give us hope with your story of recovery.

  14. Kimberly C payne February 1, 2017 at 8:01 pm - Reply

    I honestly could not leave him homeless…I just don’t think that’s what a parent does..I appreciate ur thoughts &opinion & I’ve heard similar things n alanon meetings. I wuld never forgive myself if he were murdered or froze to death alone outside. I also realize he could easily die in my own house…plz pray for us &continue 2 communicate…thanks so much!

  15. Gina February 18, 2017 at 10:05 am - Reply

    Hi Katy and Brittany as a Mother of addicts I just want to say I admire your strength ans courage Keep up the good work God Bless the both of you. Would like to correspond further with you through email if that is possible?

  16. Deana March 15, 2017 at 8:52 pm - Reply

    I am at a complete loss. My daughter is a heroin addict. In the last 4 years she has disappeared without a trace 3 times only to show up again in worse shape than before.
    In April 2016 she came back after a year of being missing. She would come around during May 2016, and the last time I heard from her was the first week of June 2016.

    On February 8, 2017 I received a call from child protective services. My daughter had given birth to a baby boy on 2/7/17. He was born addicted to heroin, so cps would not be allowing her to take my new grandson and wanted to know if I’d be willing to take him in. Of course I said yes. I work the night shift and have no car, so finding child care, and getting him to and from has stalled my getting him. It would likely be a six hour trip each day to and from child care, (3 hours to care then to my job, them 3 hours picking him up and home again). The other obstacle is the cost of child care, $11.00-25.00 per hour! There is no way I can swing that, even with the subsidy!

    I’m heartbroken, alone (I’m widowed 10 years now), I have no family near that can help me with the child care, not to mention the cost of diapers and food plus the other essentials a baby needs.
    I. Am. Totally. Alone!!

    I wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up again! It seems so cruel that I am so willing to take that baby in and love him and I’m finding it may very well end up that he’s placed with a stranger fostering him! I wish that cps hadn’t even called me! It’s soul shattering to know I’m useless to my grandson! How cruel to ask me to take him in then be left to my own devices in search of care and having no vehicle or the $ to do this.

    My brain never stops, I jump from thought to thought, feeling to feeling, and I’m basically just losing my mind!
    There is NO HELP OUT THERE! At least not that I can find. If you have virtually nobody who can help you because you’re alone, it’s enough to destroy you in very short order .

    I’m afraid I’ll have to give up.
    This is no life. Sleep, go to work, worry, cry… Then repeat the same thing every day. No, this is not living, this is simply existing.

    I don’t even know why I wrote this tome of rambling thoughts. I suppose I needed to let it out.
    I’m also sick of apologising for sharing my thoughts when anyone (pretends) to care to hear, then you see the look of “okay where’s the exit?” when I open up, after they asked me to!

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